Are you wondering what the secret is to building a happier marriage? Some couples seem naturally happier, so what do they know that others don’t? We can all agree that maintaining a healthy relationship isn’t a piece of (wedding) cake. If you’ve been thinking about trying marriage counseling, here are some simple tips for creating a happier relationship.
Start With a Compliment
If your partner is doing something that really drives you crazy, instead of jumping into a sharp criticism, consider first starting with a compliment. Some people react strongly to criticism, so the way you word your frustrations can make a big difference when it comes to the kind of response you receive. Also, never criticize your partner in front of other people. Marriage counseling can provide a safe environment for having tough conversations with your spouse, especially if grievances tend to escalate into arguments that don’t go anywhere.
Plan Special Dates
If there were special things you did together before you got married, there’s no reason to stop after the big wedding day. Many couples like to have a weekly date night to keep the relationship fun. Spending quality time together where you don’t talk about the bills, the kids, or work stress, helps you connect as a couple. Take a timeout from the day-to-day stressors.
Share Household Chores
When one person is mostly responsible for the bulk of all the cooking and cleaning, resentments can quickly pile onto the relationship. This is especially true if one person is messier than the other and just doesn’t feel the need to get to those dishes right away, or fold the laundry when it comes out of the drier. Sharing household chores and responsibilities is the best way to ensure that there are no hard feelings.
Try New Things Together
Couples counseling can also help you to expand, grow, and try new things. Exploring new hobbies or activities together is a great way to avert boredom in the relationship. If you’ve been stuck in the same routine for years, maybe it’s time to add some fun back into your marriage. Couples who play together are more likely to stay together. For example, consider taking a dance class, book a trip to Spain, plan a backpacking trip, or learn how to cook your favorite cuisine like a pro.
Making room for yourself as individuals is essential as well. If you feel like there’s no space for yourself in the marriage, the relationship will begin to seem like a problem you want to get away from. Alone time doing things you’re passionate about, or spending time with friends, is another way to recharge your connection. When you come back together, you’ll have fresh energy and stories to share.
Schedule Marriage Counseling
Marriage counseling is one of the best things you can do for your relationship. In fact, even happy couples can benefit from the occasional check-in. To schedule a consultation, contact the office of Brett Beaver, LMFT by calling 925.324.4514.