Inevitably, all of us experience some level of disagreement in our intimate partner relationship. If our belief is that healthy relationships are those where there is little to no conflict, then we are in for a big surprise. Even people in healthy relationships need to work through conflict from time to time, but therapy can help us learn new ways to manage these disagreements.
Our Past is Still with Us
We began our romantic forays with varying degrees of success. This likely included work relationships and connections we made in college. Think about the many differences that each of us brings into a relationship. The sheer number of prior experiences that shaped our feelings and beliefs about relationships, creates ample opportunity for contrasting perspectives.
We come from a family of origin that has its own unique relationship culture. As we expanded our connections beyond our family of origin, we internalized lessons from those new relationship experiences. Ultimately, what this really means is that we arrived in our current partner relationship with different expectations about union. Therapy can help us gain valuable insights into the personal histories that shaped us, as well as how those beliefs may be causing strife in our current partnership.
Common Areas of Conflict
Couples will always have disagreements. The goal is not to completely eliminate conflict from our lives because it’s actually a normal aspect of a healthy relationship. But we can learn to become better communicators.
Some of the most common areas of conflict include:
- Blended families
- Trust and boundaries
- Health issues
- Unhealthy habits
The better we are at navigating these differences, the more satisfied we’ll feel in our connection.
Scheduling Couples Therapy
Is bickering hurting your connection with your partner? Couples therapy can help you break free from destructive argument patterns. Learn more about why couples fight and how to bring more empathy and healing into your partnership.